Growing Vs Raising

Do Indians plan for a kid or do they just have a kid as a duty? Indian's here I mean Indians, not counting NRI's because all the NRI's I have seen care for their kids more than their counterparts in India. I may be wrong making this statement, but this is what I have observed.
I don't know why this question popped in my mind suddenly, but I feel many parents in India do not give enough time for their kids. Just because they have a kid they provide food, clothing, shelter and education. The last one being subjective to the financial condition of the family.
During my days in hostel I have found many guys scared to even talk to their father. They used to look at their father as some Godzilla or something. They used to run away at the sight of their father. I am just wondering if that's how a father- kid relation should be? is it a healthy relationship? I find this kind of father-kid attitude mostly in smaller towns than in the urban crowd. Generally I find that such parents do not enjoy spending time with their kids playing or going out, etc., This has made me wonder if they just have kids just for the mere reason of having kids and for the society?
On a contrast if you consider NRI parents and few parents in the urban community, they love spending time with their kids. Parents are more like friends for the kids, the kids find it at ease to express what they feel. The parents devote so much time for the kids and their activities. Though off late I see a lot of parents being involved in work so much that they have compromised their quality time spent with their kids.
Considering all these I feel that the next gen parents should plan for the timing of a kid than have a kid just because they got married. Luckily my parents fall under the second category, who are like my friends than parents, My parents devoted so much time for me and gave me so much freedom to express my views and feelings. Thanks Dad and Mom!

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