Is Anger the success formula?
Is being an angry person boon or bane? I feel strongly that a angry people get things done more easily and exactly the way they want it. Whereas a soft spoken courteous person has to have a big struggle to get things done the way he wants. Is it not good to be a gentle person?
I generally try to keep myself cool and hardly loose my temper, but I have never found it advantageous anytime, I have always found it to be a big disadvantage. People seldome listen to what I say or the idea's that I have. It's always me who's got to adjust to other's.
Whereas if I was person who gets angry at a drop of a pin, I would get everything I want and people will very helpful. Life becomes so easy.
Is it wrong to be courteous, respecting others opinion and being cool?
I generally try to keep myself cool and hardly loose my temper, but I have never found it advantageous anytime, I have always found it to be a big disadvantage. People seldome listen to what I say or the idea's that I have. It's always me who's got to adjust to other's.
Whereas if I was person who gets angry at a drop of a pin, I would get everything I want and people will very helpful. Life becomes so easy.
Is it wrong to be courteous, respecting others opinion and being cool?
posted by KK @ 3:19 PM
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8 Comments:
At July 09, 2006 10:58 PM,
Vidya said…
I know exactly what you are talking about. There is this girl at work and she is downright bitchy.But anger only takes a person so far !
What I have seen so far is that the angry person is sooner or later replaced.... Do you want to be replaced?
Vidya
At July 10, 2006 3:34 AM,
nandoo said…
how did u put that header image in u r blog??
be yourself... nothing wrong in being like that... naan avalo thaan solluven... ithuku mela ketta.. ennaku ketta kovam varum aprom naan enna ppaannuuvveennnu... ennake theriyaathu...
At July 10, 2006 8:21 AM,
Has to be me said…
Well all I can say is the girl getting married 2 u will be lucky to have a cool guy who has no temper! LOL!
Jokes apart, I quite agree with what u say. I think the way to judge it wud be with the situation & mould one according to the same.
At July 10, 2006 10:11 AM,
s0ulasylum said…
methinks.. ones gotta be convincingly persuasive and street smart to get a point across and well at that! Anger... i guess works and wrongly at tht.. just as long as u have the power and are in the position to excercise it. I always get away with a huge smile and the nicest "please" ... hehehehe ! :)
At July 10, 2006 10:18 AM,
Syam said…
//Well all I can say is the girl getting married 2 u will be lucky to have a cool guy who has no temper!//
appo ippo irukum wife summa irupaangala (jus kidding)..
u r rite KK...if you are a cool person..sollikarathuku vena nalla irukum..but velai aagathu... :-)
At July 10, 2006 12:00 PM,
Anonymous said…
Hi...Came here from Sat's blog..
Look what happened to Zidane. He lost his coolness for one moment and his whole reputation is down the drain...
At July 10, 2006 12:20 PM,
Sat said…
'You can get further with a kind word and a gun than you can with just a kind word'
nice statement!...but it comes from De Niro playing a gangster.
Anger is a bad weapon, you might get what you want, but you won't earn yourself any respect or friends! There's this little thing called being assertive, and it is the key to not being turned to a door mat. I am myself a very short tempered person, but when it's about being heard and taken seriously, I simply give the facts on the face (a little reasoning would help) rater than raise my voice. Anger is not control...but the lack of it and I have known this from my personal experience.
However, when dealing with a brute, be one ;)
At July 10, 2006 1:13 PM,
KK said…
@Vidya -
I would'nt want to be replaced but at the same time I dont want to be a looser because I don't get angry easily. Do you see what I mean?
@Nandoo - Welcome to my blog!
I uploaded the image in a dummy blog post and used the URL generated in my template.
Well I am being myself, But felt like asking this question :)
@Has to be me - Waiting for that lucky girl ;)
@S0ulasylum - "Please" works in US but not that much in India I guess. Actually I think Anger gives them the power to use anger more often.
@Syam - Ippothikku naan bramhachari than, so no wife no worry :) (Jus Kiddin)
@Karthik - Welcome to my blog!
Well the pressure took over the situation, I would not blame Zidane much for it. He lost his cool in a split second. But some people use their anger to get things done fast and easily at the cost of some calm guy, Is that rite?
@Sat - That statement was awesome! I liked it :)
Assertiveness is good. One needs to be assertive, I agree with that. But I have seen many taking advantage of a situation by getting angry (I am not sure if they really get angry or they act as if they are angry). Its like once they taste the fruit of anger they try to get more fruits out of it.
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